My Manhood Wouldn't Let Me Approach Woman, How Can I Overcome It, I Need Help

I have read lots of books, articles, and magazine on how to approach woman but none of them is working for me, I just wonder what is wrong with me. The only problem I have is how to control my manhood when I approach woman.

Any time I see a woman I like and try to approach her, my manhood will just start to erect and it's showing off in my trouser even if I put on jeans anybody that look at me will surely know that something is going on in this guy's mind.

I have tried to put my mind away from it and go after the girl but in the course of the approaching the "Big Man" is getting stronger which make me feel uncomfortable and most time I look for an immediate excuses to leave the girl as if I have something urgently to attend to immediately but it's a lie, is just to let her not notice that my "Big Man" is on annoyance level.

I'm not getting younger anymore, I need help on how to overcome this serious issue in my life for over ten years now.

Please what do you think I can do to put this behind me? Your contribution matter to me a lot, thank you and God bless you as you contribute. (Amen).

Boko Haram is not an Islamic organisation – Governor Aliyu

Boko Haram is not an Islamic organisation – Governor Aliyu

Niger State Governor, Babangida Aliyu, Tuesday condemned the activities of Boko Haram sect, saying the sect “does not represent Islam.”

Aliyu said this yesterday at the 2013 Annual Conference and Awards Ceremony organised by Leadership Newspapers in Abuja.

According to him, “Boko Haram is not a Muslim organisation. If a Muslim commits suicide, he goes straight to hell. If a Muslim kills another man without justifiable reason, the sin of that person is transferred to him. There is no compulsion to the religion of Islam”, he explained.

While appealing to Nigerians to tolerate their differences and live amicably, the governor called for devolution of power to Local Governments to bring governance closer to the people.

He bemoaned a situation where people sit down in Abuja “and plan for people they don’t know”.

Aliyu also urged politicians to promote internal democracy so that people would have the right to choose their leaders.

“Some people are a misnomer to the positions they occupy. People must be given chance to elect people they think can do better for them,” he said.

Aliyu, who is the chairman of the Northern Governors’ Forum, advised ruling parties at the federal and state levels to tolerate the opposition.

He said, “If you have credible opposition, it will keep you on your toes. You will know you can’t take things for granted. You will know you need to consult with the people so that you can do the right things otherwise the opposition will come and take over. Those who do not appreciate the opposition have no business being in politics.” He added.

Source: Dailypost 

» Fulham Vs Chelsea Today At 8pm «

Rafael Benitez's side have lost six and won just three on their travels since the start of the year and travel to Craven Cottage to face their 10th-placed west London rivals
Fulham midfielder Damien Duff (groin) sustained an injury last time out against Aston Villa and may not be fit enough to start on Wednesday night.

Steve Sidwell serves the last match of his three-game suspension, so Kieran Richardson may well keep his place in the midfield. Otherwise, Martin Jol has no new injury concerns ahead of this game.

Meanwhile, Chelsea defender Ashley Cole (hamstring) is near a recovery although this game may come slightly too soon for the left-back, leaving Ryan Bertrand - who recently recovered from a virus - to deputise again.

Gary Cahill is also returning to full fitness and could make the bench for this game. Otherwise, Rafael Benitez is likely to field a strong side as the Blues look to open up a gap over fellow Champions League qualification rivals Tottenham.

Fulham have seen their woodwork hit 18 times this season, more than any other team in the top flight.

Martin Jol's men have drawn their last five matches against Wednesday's opponents in all competitions.
The hosts' last league victory over Chelsea was a 1-0 win in 2005-06 thanks to a goal from Luis Boa Morte (pictured right).

Chelsea are undefeated in their last 14 matches against Fulham in all competitions.

The Blues' loss to Manchester City in the FA Cup on Sunday was their first defeat in the competition in 30 matches, excluding penalty shootouts.

Chelsea have not won a game away from home in the Premier League since they beat Stoke City 4-0 on January 12 - and only twice in all competitions in 12 outings.

Time: 8.00pm
Referee: Mike Dean

Source: Nairaland 

Mourinho Finally Accepts To Be Chelsea Manager

The wait is over, after months of speculation, Jose Mourinho has agreed to return to the Chelsea hot-seat next season according to the Daily Star.

And the current Real Madrid manager has already drawn up a list of transfer targets to help the Blues return to the top of the Premier League – headlined by strikers Hulk and Radamel Falcao.

According to the reports, Mourinho will return to Stamford Bridge at the end of the season on a salary that more than matches his current £12 million-a-year package at Madrid. But the 50-year-old realises Chelsea need some extra firepower to compete against the likes of Manchester United, Manchester City, Arsenal and emerging powerhouse Tottenham.

Mourinho is a big admirer of Hulk while Atletico Madrid’s Radamel Falcao has long been rumoured with a move to London.

The news may just reinforce Romelu Lukaku’s desire to seek another loan move away from the club next season, with the Mirror reporting the teenager, currently plying his trade with West Brom, has asked Blues officials to secure him another stint in the Premier League. And with European football on his mind, a move to the Capital One champions, Swansea, is on the cards.

Source: Naij.com

Gunmen Kill Four State officials In Borno- Premium Times

Gunmen, suspected to be members of the insurgent Boko Haram, on Tuesday evening killed four officials of the Borno State Government.

The officials are members of the state school feeding committee that were on a tour of schools in the state. The victims include Tijjani Mafe who is the chairman of the feeding committee in charge of the free feeding programs in public schools.

Also among those killed was an accountant, Modu Kura Gubio. The names of the other two victims, including the driver of the vehicle, are yet to be confirmed.\

Reliable government sources say the gunmen waylaid the vehicle of the committee members at Logomani Village near the outskirts of Bama Town, 89km from Maiduguri; and shot them dead. The gunmen also escaped with their vehicle.

The state commissioner of education, Musa Inuwa Kubo, confirmed the incident but could not provide details.

Source: Premium Times, Sahara Reporters 

We ‘re yet to decide on amnesty – Boko Haram

BY NDAHI MARAMA, with agency report
Faction rejects FG’s offer
MAIDUGURI— Islamic sect, Boko Haram has said that the Shura Council, the highest decision-making organ of the sect led by Imam Abubakar Ibn Shekau, which has the power to decide whether the sect will accept the offer of amnesty being planned by the Federal Government is yet to take a decision on the offer even as another faction of the sect has publicly rejected the amnesty saying the group did not ask for it.

The Federal Government last week set up a committee to look at the feasibility or otherwise of granting amnesty to the sect members in a bid to put an end to the spate of violence in the North.

Spokesman of a faction of the sect, Abu Dardam, however, spoke on the Hausa service of the BBC that the group was rejecting the offer of amnesty by the government. The group also said that it will not accept the amnesty which the Governor Alhaji Kashim Shettima promised to offer them.

A video grab made on March 21, 2013 from a video distributed to reporters by purported intermediaries of the Islamist group linked to Al-Qaeda, Boko Haram, shows the suspected leader of the Nigerian Islamist group linked to Al-Qaeda, Boko Haram, Imam Abu Muhammad Ibn Muhammad Abubakar Ash Shekawi, also known as Abubakar Shekau, at an undisclosed location in Nigeria. AFP

Abu Dardam stated that the group was rejecting the amnesty because they don’t recognize democracy as a form of government and that the group does not agree with the constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, arguing that justice can only be found in the Holy Quran, that is Shariya system of government.

Borno Govt appeals for peace

Borno State Commissioner of Home Affairs Information and Culture Mr. Hyeladi Inuwa Bwala, in his reaction appealed to the group to see reason and embrace dialogue with a view to restoring lasting peace in BornoState. He noted that most wars and crisis in the world were settled mostly through dialogue, and therefore called on the group to see wisdom in the amnesty offer and come to a round table for dialogue.

Imam Abubakar Ibn Shekau-led Boko Haram, however, said only its highest decision-making organ, Shura Council has the power to take a decision whether or not to accept the amnesty. A credible source close to the sect explained  that the Shura Council is Boko Haram’s apex council and highest decision-making organ of the sect while all cells of the organization are represented in the council.

The source explained that everything about the proposed amnesty would be deliberated upon and thereafter subjected to the group’s Islamic theology and jurisprudence

According to the source, “Shura Council may surprise Nigerians, because they may agree and may not agree. It depends on their understanding and Islamic theology and the jurisprudence they are following. They are above what people think about them, they are highly ideological and hold their beliefs high. They are committed Mujahideens and highly committed to their cause. I know this rather well.” The source disclosed that the Shura Council would act according to the tenets of their faith.

Gunmen attack church in Maiduguri

Meanwhile, some gunmen suspected to be members of the Boko Haram sect yesterday attacked the Ekliziyar Yan’uwa a Nigeriya (Church of Brethren), also known as EYN in Bulumkutu ward of Maiduguri, the Borno state capital injuring one policeman even as another set of gunmen abducted a former chairman of Abadam local council of Borno state, Alhaji Mustapha Gadobe,, weekend and demanded N50 million ransom from the state government or he will be killed.

Vanguard gathered that the gunmen who attacked the church came in a Keke Napep (tricycle) at about 11:02am when the service was going on opening fire on the JTF troops deployed to the church to protect lives of and property. JTF troops however repelled the attack and in the process a policeman was injured on his leg.

According to an eye witness, “the gunmen numbering about five came on a tricycle and started shooting at the JTF security personnel attached to the church, but the JTF responded swiftly.”

When contacted on phone for confirmation, the JTF Spokesman, Lieutenant Colonel Sagir Musa  confirmed the incident.

He said at about 11am, some Boko Haram suspects attempted to attack the JTF location at the EYN church in Bulumkutu ward of Maiduguri Metropolis, but were repelled, pointing out that one policeman sustained gunshot injury on his leg. The problem was treated and immediately discharged from the hospital.

The abducted former council boss, Gadobe was said to have been kidnapped near a Maiduguri suburb, Wadiya by the gunmen who hurriedly bundled him into his Toyota FJ Cruiser and drove off to unknown destination.

Vanguard  authoritatively gathered that a serving member of Borno state house of Assembly was currently handling the negotiation between the kidnappers and Borno state government.

A top political appointee informed our Correspondent in confidence that the abductors threatened to kill their hostage when the said mediator offered a N3 million cash payment as against the N50 million earlier demanded.

‘We learnt that the family members of the former council chairman and the mediator had on Saturday offered to pay N3 million an offer that was said to have angered the kidnappers who vowed to kill Gadobe should such ridiculous amount be mentioned again’, said the source.

It was further learnt  that another offer of N10 million was yesterday advanced to the abductors which was still turned down.

A top official of the DSS confirmed the abduction to Vanguard on phone but declined giving details of steps being taken to rescue the kidnapped politician.

Embrace peace initiative —Atiku tells militia groups

In a related development former Vice President Atiku Abubakar urged members of the Boko Haram sect to embrace taking advantage of the constitution of an Amnesty Committee on the insurgency by President Goodluck Jonathan.

Reacting to the weekend attack on the private residence of the Adamawa State Deputy Governor, Bala James Ngillari by some armed men and the massacre of policemen in Bayelsa State, the former Vice President in a statement yesterday urged the militia groups in the country to lay down their arms, saying not laying down arms portend grave consequences for the country.

The former presidential aspirant on the platform of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP who noted that aggrieved members of any society have the right to express their grievances, but warned that taking up arms and killing other citizens was the most bizarre way of expressing such grievances.

Atiku Abubakar who noted that no government can condone such a recourse to impunity as it undermines national stability and cohesion, said, ‘’Armed groups in the country should take the full advantage of the window of opportunity of a peace deal being put together by the Federal Government to negotiate for a peaceful conflict resolution.”

Source: Vanguard 

Boko Haram Amnesty: Best decision at the moment – PDP

By Ben Agande, Abuja & Caleb Ayansina
ABUJA — THE National leadership of the Peoples Party, PDP yesterday described the constitution of an Amnesty Committee on the Boko Haram insurgency by President Goodluck Jonathan as the best decision at the moment just as the governors of Kastina and Jigawa states, Ibrahim Shema and Sule Lamido yesterday said the decision was in submission to the yearnings of northern leaders over the plight of the people in the region that should be commended.

In a statement signed by PDP National Publicity Secretary, Chief Olisa Metuh, the party while hailing the President for the action, stressed that it was yet another demonstration of his sincerity and forthrightness in handling the affairs of Nigeria, adding that it showed the President as a listening leader and one who has the unity of the country as paramount to him.

‘’It is on record that the north is the most receptive region in the country. Indeed there is no part of the country that is more accommodating than the north which has always been home for all people, irrespective of religious creed and tribal affiliations.

‘’The leadership of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) commends President Goodluck Jonathan for constituting an Amnesty Committee on the Boko Haram insurgency.

This is yet another demonstration of the President’s sincerity and forthrightness in handling national issues.”

Speaking with state House correspondents after meeting with President Jonathan, governors Lamido and  Shema said the decision was a step in ensuring that peace returns to the northern part of the country.

According to the governor, of Katsina state,  “If a committee on amnesty is set up, it is done because Nigerians and leaders from the northern part of the country are yearning for a quick resolution to the matter. And the president is responding positively to this request so that our nation can go on in peace, progress and development”.

He said it is not true that northern governors did not do enough to check the activities of the sect noting that the governors had set up a committee on peace and reconciliation before now.

”If you remember, the northern governors’ forum did set up a special committee for peace, healing and reconciliation and that committee has been working very hard and is submitting its second report to the northern governors’ forum and certainly all hands are on deck including traditional institutions, religious and political leaders, even from the services – military, retired, the police, SSS are all part of that committee”, he added.

Shema noted that there “has been very serious efforts by the northern governors forum to tackle this insecurity in northern Nigeria. I believe if a security committee is set up is in good faith, is for the good of Nigeria and for the resolution to the crisis that has bedeviled most of northern Nigeria on the issue of insecurity.

”My advice is that there is no nation that can progress without peace and stability. We need peace and all hands be on deck, those who are aggrieved for one reason or the other should come forward and be able to resolve this crisis, such that our nation and our people can progress and develop rapidly” he said.

On his part, the governor of Jigawa state said the president’s decision was in response to the wish of the people.

”What ever it is,  he is there for the people and the people said this is what we want and he has given it to them so I commend him for that. Whatever it is wisdom,  has prevailed. It is all about what do we do to secure our country especially when Nigeria becomes a country that is very secure and stable so that we confront the problems of human development.

”This country needs our energy, it needs our political skills and a there are a number of things which are begging for attention. Whatever it is to be able to get Nigeria united, to make it secure, we should do it. So ignore what might have been the other misconceptions. We are now doing the right thing” he said.

Meanwhile, Anglican Youth Fellowship, Nigeria, yesterday, said that the Federal government’s decision to grant amnesty to the Boko Haram sect was nothing but to legalize terrorism in the country.

The President of AYF, Wuse Archdeaconry Council, Brr. Isaac Harrison stated this while speaking to Saturday Vanguard during a workshop organised for the youths with the theme; “Empowered To Impact The World”, in Abuja.

He said, “We cannot grant amnesty to people we do not know, we cannot also grant amnesty to people who had already made up their minds that whether there is dialogue or not they will go on with whatever they are doing, if Boko Haram actually need peace they will not be killing those that are moving towards that peace.

“So, the Anglican Youths Fellowship members are not in support of the amnesty to Boko Haram.

“If you grant amnesty to a terrorist, you should remember that some months ago, US listed Nigeria as a terrorist country, it was by the grace of God that we were able to release ourselves from that situation, so, if we grant amnesty to Boko Haram, it will means that Nigeria is a terrorist country, so we are legalizing terrorism.”